POWER has been a point of conversation for me over the last few weeks. In a little store off the beach’s main road of Tulum, Mexico, I picked up a black bracelet. Something inside of me was drawn to it. I noticed that there was a plethora of bracelets in different colors and each held their own unique spiritual essence. As I turned the packaging around to find out what this black bracelet symbolized, I saw the word in all uppercase staring back at me: POWER. I bought it in an instant.
Later that week, my husband and I were browsing a beautifully curated shop. I was on the lookout for a piece of jewelry that I could take home with me from our honeymoon that would forever remind me of that magical place. I saw a gold pinky ring with a black rectangular stone peering out of a jewelry case.
I immediately grabbed my husband to have him take a look. He instantaneously said, “That is your power ring.”
I was cooped up on the plane over to my honeymoon finishing up the book “The Anatomy of the Spirt” by Caroline Myss. There was an entire section dedicated to your personal power that left me in an inspiring state.
She says, ““Power is at the root of the human experience. Our attitudes and belief patterns, whether positive or negative, are all extensions of how we define, use, or do not use power.”
Caroline Myss even boldly proclaims, “that personal power is necessary for health.”
I knew one thing for sure: the idea of POWER was following me everywhere. In return, I decided to dig inward and see where my personal power lies and how to awaken my personal power towards love, light, and joy.
First of all: What is personal power?
According to Carline Myss:
“Each of us has numerous power symbols, and each such symbol has a biological counterpart…Our lives are structured around power symbols: money, authority, title, beauty, security. The people who fill our lives and the choices we make each moment are expressions and symbols of our personal power. We often hesitate to challenge a person who we believe holds more power than we do, and we frequently agree to things because we believe we haven’t the power to refuse. In countless situations and relationships, the underlying dynamic at work is the negotiation of power; who has it, ad how we can maintain our share of it.”
Also: “You need to become conscious of what gives you power. Healing from any illness is facilitated by identifying your power symbols and your symbolic and physical relationship to those symbols, and heeding any messages your body and intuitions are sending you about them.”
I am guilty to associating my power with external influences that are not the healthiest: measuring my power with the amount of money in the bank, the amount of credentials/experience I have with work, the amount of friends I have that come to me for advice, etc. I often times attempt to control situations for fear of the outcome. I am a very impatient person, which is just me attempting to use my power over other individuals. My anxiety is me failing at that.
In reality, my real personal power lies in a very deep part of myself, one that I rarely unleash since I have been conditioned to act out of fear rather than love (I am working on that).
My personal power is a large beam of light with infinite creativity, drive, and genuine compassion. It’s that small thing inside of me that dreams big dreams and then executes upon them. It is knowing that I am capable and strong. My true personal power does not rely on other’s opinions or actions. My true personal power does not try to control the outcome. My true personal power knows that everything is working for me, not against me, and to let love and joy flow through me so that I can truly show how powerful I am – how powerful we all are.
According to Psychology Today, “Personal power is based on strength, confidence, and competence that individuals gradually acquire in the course of their development. It is self-assertion, and a natural, healthy striving for love, satisfaction and meaning in one’s interpersonal world. This type of power represents a movement toward self-realization and transcendent goals in life; its primary aim is mastery of self, not others. Personal power is more an attitude or state of mind than an attempt to maneuver or control others. It is based on competence, vision, positive personal qualities, and service. When externalized it is likely to be more generous, creative and humane than other forms of power.”
SO – what is your personal power? Where does your personal power lie? Is it in negative spaces or in positive havens? What is your relationship to power? How can you shift your personal power to one of love, confidence, and joy?
From my personal power to yours: may our Inner Guide show us the path to pure joy.