Let’s talk about transition.
TRANSITION: the mother of change and the father of the past.
Whatever this looks like for you – whether the transition is negative, positive or any combination thereof – transitions are tedious to navigate, partly because they run you up and down and through the spectrum of emotions, which at times can be notoriously unpredictable.
In a moment of change, I ask myself: Which character am I? Am I Lucifer transitioning into Satan from “Paradise Lost”? Or am I more like Eve, eating the forbidden fruit, being a curious artist? Am I Joan Didion after her husband passed away in ” The Year of Magical Thinking”? Am I Dagny Taggart from “Atlas Shrugged”? How am I responding to change? How am I handling the transition?
Whatever stage of the transition I might find myself in, a constant remains: there will be many stages, many opinions, many outlooks and eventually I will become my final decision. Also important to note, that eventually you should become your final decision. Flip-flopping between decisions (or two potential future narratives) fuels the confusion within.
If in a current moment of transition where I feel angry, sad, broken – maybe even empty? – I know what follows is better: freedom, self-awareness, self-realization and a world of which I can decide where I belong. When the transition is over, I will have come out stronger. That I always whole-heartedly believe. Always hold onto that future outcome no matter the depths the transition shows you.
Sometimes when decisions are right, they are also hard – this is when both positivity and negativity are simultaneously at play. Sometimes any decision you make in certain circumstances are difficult. Maybe they cause you panic attacks – hyperventilating so fast you are unsure if your chest will ever calm down.
It does, you do. And then, you transition.
“Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.” – Author Isaac Asimov
In that, I hope to remember one thing: transitions are temporary and in order to truly keep them temporary, you must go through the erratic, uncomfortable and sometimes unpredictable emotions that will flow up from your stomach and your heart, into your esophagus and out of your mouth or eyelids – so that you can free yourself of the process knowing you went through it and move on with a clear head towards a place of positivity and strength.
What do transitions look like for you?