Why I Label Myself As a Feminist

I don’t know where it started. Perhaps it was when my mom gave me the masturbating talk instead of the sex talk when I was fourteen. She was delivering the message loud and clear – You can do whatever you want without a man – masked within the awkward parent-to-child talk that comes with your daughter going on birth control.

Or maybe it was because I saw the life of a stay-at-home mom and realized that wasn’t for me – and if that wasn’t for me, I was going to have to fight for my career.

I remember reading about a study called “The Second Shift” which illustrated that women were going to work, working the 9-5, and then coming home to their kids, their second shift.

I remember asking myself, “Why don’t the men share the second shift?”

It was a pivotal moment: understanding that women were breaking through in their careers but still being expected to be a 24/7 mom. Nothing loosed up, nothing equaled out. The work wasn’t being shared amongst a man and a woman – women had to do both.

I suppose these little things started a fire beneath me. It made me question – what type of woman do I want to be? Do I want to be a mom? Do I want to be a stay-at-home mom? Do I want an all encompassing career? What sort of relationship do I want with my partner? What does co-parenting look like? What will my family look like?

What infuriated me the most was that I had to ask these questions. I had to worry about how I was going to balance a family and a career; I couldn’t help but notice that this internal dialogue of ominous questioning that clouded my future as a woman was not a mental agony for men because a career and a family had always been a no brainer for them all along.

But let’s back up; I am not a feminist out of rage or hate for men (even though I do get a little bit angry at times). I think we can all say the stereotype of an angry feminist has come and gone and should be diminished from our memories. Today, feminism celebrates all women – the career woman, the stay-at-home mom, the woman without kids, the woman taking the off-beaten path, etc. It doesn’t matter what path you choose as a woman in my book, as long as you chose it with passion and purpose.

It also unfortunately needs to be said that I identify as an intersectional feminist, which aims to include women of color. Again, the fact that we need a separate label for this proves the point that we need this entire movement in the first place.

I have to admit – it is tedious writing this. Do I mention today’s political and tumultuous climate? Do I mention that our president has used inappropriate, offensive, and crude language when speaking about women? Do I mention the recent sex scandals that have been rolling out from Hollywood, one by one? Do I mention the “ME TOO” movement – which was so overwhelming because we all have a story? Do I mention that more men need to be feminists and that this isn’t just a woman’s movement? Do I mention that feminism just means equality for both genders?

Whatever I do and do not mention, one thing is true: every ounce of my body believes in women’s rights and the power of women. This is exhibited in my podcast, which I market as the smart, foxy, and curated roundtable for passionate women. I interview a different woman each week in order to uncover how she persevered through challenges and how she found her successes. I talk about their lowest points, I talk about their highest points, and what connected the dots.

Somewhere in all of this messy predicament, I reflect on what it means to me to be a feminist. And it I put it quite simple. I want to be treated the way a man is treated in his career. I want my fiancé and I to be treated equally when it comes to creating a family. I want nothing to hold me back because I am a woman or a mom. I want to succeed and proceed as an empowered woman who does not cower to societal standards of beauty. I want to rise above the extreme pressures put on women today and show that success is also ours for the taking.

I am a feminist because I need to be – because we all need to be.

by scout






Scout is the curator and Editor-in-Chief of REVUE by scout. When not fostering REVUE, you can catch Scout reading, writing, out for lunch with friends, or cuddling on the couch with her fiancé and puppy Lola. Scout comes from both the digital and print publishing worlds with experience that ranges from operational to creative. Experience her aesthetic world with REVUE.

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