Last night, I made a reservation for one. One as in just me, by myself. I took myself out on a date.
It started with the fact that my fiancé left town yesterday on a trip to visit a friend and chase the solar eclipse. With a Saturday night to myself, I thought of different options. For some reason, the idea of taking myself out for a nice dinner with my notebook and book to have a glass of wine felt exactly like what I needed.
So I called a little french restaurant, Cafe Chloe, in downtown San Diego (which has the best pomme frites) and made a reservation for one at 7:00 pm.
Then, I started to get ready. I curled my hair, took about an hour trying different outfits on, and put on a full face of makeup. I was excited – a little giddy even. Something about trying on outfits for literally no one other than yourself feels good. Even when you are going out for girls’ night, you get dressed up with the idea that you are meeting someone. Even when you are going out on a date with your significant other, you want to look good for them.
When you go on a date with yourself, you get ready for yourself.
I wore exactly what I felt like for me. It really turned into a great practice of self love. Putting time into your appearance and getting ready for a nice dinner only for yourself and then sitting and eating alone was a really empowering experience.
It gave me so many moments of confidence, reminding me that I love who I am. Often times we are afraid to be alone and sit with just ourselves. Taking yourself out on a nice date is the perfect step to combat that. It is now something I am going to schedule monthly for myself.
Our society talks a lot about self love and confidence. So, pencil yourself in. Order those mussels. Eat the entire mountain of pomme frites. Have a glass of wine. Indulge in a creme brûlée. Read a book. Journal a bit. Love the way you are wearing your hair.
Take yourself out on a date.